Proverbial pants

Last night we were whipping up dinner on the grill. Mr. FC was at the sink ,washing off the grilling tools, when I saw him glance over at the windowsill.

Mr. FC: Hey......when did we get those?
Me: (innocently) Get what?
Mr. FC: Those little white pots for the succulent thingies.
Me: We've had those forever.
Mr. FC: Huh. Not bad.
Me: (thinking to myself) Works everytime.
Mr. FC: What was that?
Me: (realizing I actually said that out loud) Uhhhh.....looove yoouu. (searching for a distraction) Want to make out?

As you've probably gathered by now, home decor and renovating are my obsessions. For the most part (budget withstanding), the decorating is left up to me. However, there's always that voice in my head, the one jostling for room amongst all the other voices until I quiet them with a happy pill. Admonishing me to reel it in a notch because Mr. FC's style is more "man-cave" than "glam-cave".

I'm guilty. I've been known to sneak stuff into the house and slowly incorporate them into the home. Obviously, we do consult each other on huge purchases and renovation decisions. But there are times where I have to wear the proverbial decorating pants and just do it and hope that the husband will come around. Sometimes he does. Sometimes he blatantly vetoes. Sometimes he's just stoked that he had no part in it. Usually, he doesn't even notice until weeks later and then he's all "We must have always had that." Love the oblivious guy to pieces.

Which got me wondering how you all do it.
Who wears the proverbial decorating pants in your relationship?
This blog's always about me. *snore* I would love to hear from you so that I can feel less guilty about my obsession and not just because I want to win your comments.
Wait, did I say that out loud too? Crap.

image plucked from Pure Style Home's blog

50 comments:

  1. I TOTALLY wear the pants in this household. Collin always wears boxers around the crib. Ohhh, wait, you meant....gotcha. I STILL wear those pants too. In fact, I may have a few purchases in the trunk of my car right now that have been in hiding. I don't really need to hide anything though cuz he always loves the stuff I buy. I think I do it because I tend to have a bad case of buyers remorse, which I cure by eating. Not a good combo. Did you ever purchase the Homegoods chairs? Yeah, stalker here!

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  2. I should steal EVERY. SINGLE. WORD. in this post, because it is absolutely, positively the same way at the T&T house.

    Just try concealing a gorgeous blue damask chair in your car for three days and then have THAT "show up" in the livingroom.. Not an easy task! :) ..but he loves it now, so suck it.

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  3. Lol at works everytime! There were so many things that I had to do for Tony's surprise party that I thought for sure he would notice! I learned a valuable lesson about my husband, he's totally oblivious to anything besides me and Isaac lol!

    I'm definitely the decorator, but if it's any indication Tony actually asks me to put more up!

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  4. FC- you always crack me up. Actually, I had a similiar situation the other night. I went to Pier 1, purchased two new pillows, came home and placed them on the couch. Mr. P gets home and says "What did you buy at Pier 1?" I'm like HUH???? How the heck did he know. I slipped and left the empty bag on the dining room table. But, guess what? He didn't even notice the pillows!!??? A few hours later I'm like honey, are you serious? I bought the pillows that your resting your head on!!!! Ahhhh....

    Gotta love him (especially since he let's me do all the decorating)!

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  5. I wear the pants...and most of the time it takes him weeks or even months to notice anything new!!! But when he does it is almost old at the time so I am not completely lying :)

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  6. The mister has a much more traditional/craftsman style aesthetic, where I tend to be a bit more contemporary/beachy. But I never do anything in the house (seriously, not a thing, not even a flower pot) without his input.

    There are lots of times where I love something and he just wrinkles his nose at that item and I have to abandon it. Even if he tells me to get it anyway, I won't. I want the house to be a reflection of us, even if that means sacrificing my personal style. Not gonna lie, sometimes it sucks, but in the end our house feels like home to both of us, so it's worth it :)

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  7. No question, I wear the decor pants. Chad does notice new things, but he likes what I do so he usually compliments me. :) Even with big projects, I make all the decisions and tell him what to do. Which is always fun.

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  8. I definitely wear the pants when it comes to home ecor, but the hubs and I have VERY similar tastes, so he trusts my judgment when I go shopping for home decor stuff. However, he wears the pants when it comes to spending $, so I can't spend a dime until he consents. Thankfully, he is usually pretty reasonable when it comes to things for the casa, so I often get my way when it comes to bringing stuff into the house! :)

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  9. definitely me. even furniture shows up at our door unannounced. as long as the couch is comfortable, the husband really doesn't care. a marriage made in heaven if you ask me!

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  10. Niiice work. LOL at Mr. FC. I wear the decorating pants, but B gets veto power if he absolutely hates something (within reason - the ampersand in the office is staying regardless of what he thinks - it was $12, not like it broke the bank). My mom recently had canned lighting put in her family room to replace really bad track lighting, and three weeks later she finally said to my dad, "Hey honey, did you notice that we now have canned lights in that room". Nope.

    Can I be honest and snarky? OK, good. I think it's creepy when husbands have too much of an opinion about all things decor - you know, to the point of the wife feeling like she has to ask permission to change something. Yuck.

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  11. And just to clarify, that's based purely on my own distaste for having to ask permission to do something in my own house. I have relatives who've fallen under that game and it gives me the heeby jeebies. Not to say guys can't like decor and have opinions, just not the final say.

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  12. I'm sucking at life right now and don't want to start a riot on your blog. I meant the ONLY say. I'm done now.

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  13. Rolling, way to divert with lovin'! Luckily my hubs could care less, he generally does not have an opinion about anything I do in the house. Unless there is a major project. Sometimes... sometimes I would love for just a pinch more of an opinion.

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  14. I almost always regret asking the Mr. for his opinion on decor but I seem to do it everytime anyway.

    I don't sneak things in - I just announce Im getting something b/c I like it!

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  15. I do the decorating but the hubs actually has good opinions (sometimes he vetoes things cause the knobs are weird, love him).

    Far as money, it's tricky though 'cause I'm the breadwinner and I feel like I should just be allowed to buy whatever I want but to curb my control freak nature, I've let him handle the money and pay the bills. Balances us out. Actually, I can get away with most when he comes shopping with me, usually because I let him buy a video game or movie while I get a new soap pump.

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  16. haha! I'm the decorating "pants-wearer" as well. And you're not alone- I sneak things into the house too! :)

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  18. AGH! I just deleted my post...

    I try to use my best judgement when to ask and when not to. I'm the queen of returns to it helps a bit with getting things into the house. But for instance, I'm currently .in hate. with our den (even though I just bought 2 chairs 3 months ago - that I can't return) so I decided to email him a picture from Decorpad of a look that I was going for. He okayed it, and actually liked it. Had I gone to him and said "Honey we're getting a white sectional, zebra pillows, a hutch, 2 white lamps, and a few other things'" he would've freaked out probably.

    "As long as there aren't chandeliers in every room, I'll be okay," he says A LOT. He knows my love for sparkly things. I've learned to be okay with it, a happy husband, is a happy household...it works two ways.

    There are some things I'll take pics of and then he can decide if he likes them (ie. furniture), but generally he doesn't veto me.

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  19. I definitely wear the decorating pants. The hubs could live in a completely bare house and be happy. I'm like you, I've purchased things and act like we've had it forever.

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  20. I pull the "its been there forever" move too- guys just dont notice the little things. I do, however, have to ask him about the big things like you. But, he is getting alot better at realizing this is my passion and im not half bad at it.

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  21. Our first fight after moving in together was related to a decorating decision I made. I put deep red valances up in our dining nook, which has khaki (sp?) walls. My husband CALLED HIS MOTHER to express his disdain for the "fire engine colored" curtains being placed, and "isn't that an awful idea?!" Needless to say he didn't get sympathy from his mother. He came around to them, too, and now I get to veto his vetoes!

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  22. I wear the proverbial pants in our household, but mostly because I'm a commercial interior designer, so I have that whole "it's my job" thing going for me. My husband likes to have a say in big purchases, but most of the time is happy to not be involved, after seeing what an arduous process it is for me to pick something as simple as curtains. :)

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  23. at our house we both wear the decorating pants...my hubby has a great eye for color and we both have similar taste...he doesn't always have the same vision i do...but once i show him what i am thinking about doing, he always has something to offer to the process...he's manly...but he has an artistic side too.(which i find HOT!!)

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  24. OH MY GAWD, y'all!

    1. Can't breathe....laughing too hard. Might pee.
    2. I am lurving all of your responses so much, I'm re-reading them.

    Keep 'em coming!! =]

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  25. LOL! Love this post!!!!1 DH is European and grew up with lots of sisters (15 kids in the family) so he totally understands my obsessive need to decorate! I definitely wear the decorating pants! ITA with Amy! As long as he has a comfy sofa, he pretty much leaves the rest up to me. Oh, and he's had his moments where it's taken days to recognize something new in the house, hello! HeHe!

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  26. Shat woman, you had me laughing so hard when you said, "ummmmm... I love you. Wanna make out???" I'm totally using that on Ryan when he spots my smuggled goods.

    If there are such things as decorating pants, I would be wearing them and Ryan would be naked. Ooo.... that came out wrong.

    But seriously, we recently had a conversation about why his neon, velvet Rolling Stones poster and black and white Arnold Schwarzenneger bodybuilding posters could not be put in the house. For God sakes... he wanted to put them out in the hallway.

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  27. This is hilarious - my hubby is a geotechnical engineer and works closely with geologists! Why do those guys even have an opinion? I wish I could say I wear the pants all the time, but my hubby's opinion totally sways me - dang it!

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  28. And PS, I truly believe that giving my husband veto power would be a mistake. Don't tell Ryan that Mr. FC has veto power. All hell would break loose. I'm the only one with veto power around this joint. And, that's final.

    (Wow.... dictator much?)

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  29. I'd like to say I wear the decorating pants 100% of the time, but that would be a lie. Mr. Y throws in his $.02 just enough to be aggravating and just enough to make me stand in the aisles of Target drenched in sweat, holding myself, rocking back and forth worried whether or not he'd like the brown pillow or the cream pillow better. Truth be told, the man has makes good sense when it comes to decor. He's no Vern Yip, by any stretch of the imagination, but he does know what looks good, and I do value his opinion (when he's not being aggravating, that is).

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  30. LMAO! Ohhhh I love you. I definitely wear the proverbial decorating pants (although Hubby hasn't seen ANYTHING yet, since we're still planning our may-jah renovation here). But I also sneak stuff in. This jacket? I've had this jacket forever! And these sunglasses? Man Hubby, you really need to pay more attention. ;)

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  31. OH. OH OH OH. And my favorite. It goes a little something like this:

    Me: "What do you think of this art print?"

    Husband: "Meh."

    Me: "Really? You don't think this would look great over the sofa in the sitting room?"

    Husband: "Meh."



    Two weeks later I brought the print home. He had completely forgotten how much he had shot it down in the store and told me it looked fantastic above the sofa. It looked just great! He loves it when I do things to change the home a bit.

    Bravo, me. Bravo.

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  32. I tend to always regret "informing" Hubby of my future purchases (because he's CHEAP and never wants to buy anything for the house!) but I do it anyway because I can't stand it when we have lived with something, like, forever and then I get rid of it and he's like, "I have always hated that." Grrgh! And I'm like, "Why didn't you say something when I bought it!?" And he's like, "You didn't ask." That's why I ask now. YUK.

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  33. I most defiantely wear the decorating pants in the family. And I use the trick "we've had that forever" all the time. I would say it works 90% of the time and the other 10% I must admit that I should have consulted him. Love the blog!

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  34. Oh I wear the pants, no question! I'm a control freak and obsessed with interior design...if he tried to have a say, I don't think our relationship could make it! Just kidding...I think. Pretty much the only time I consult him is when we need to make a major furniture purchase (bc my sad little salary just can't buy those things by itself, sigh). Basically as long as what I'm doing isn't Pretty Pretty Princess-style, he could care less how I decorate - and that's how I like it!

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  35. Decor, aside from the desk area of my husband's office, is dictated by me.

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  36. I could have written that post. My husband alternates between being oblivous and caring immensely about what comes into our house. Basically, I consult on pretty much anything that will cost over $50.00 to satisfy the thrifty side of him, but mainly, he's just not as interested in the process as I am. Never would he willingly spend an afternoon thrifting and vintageing and Target-ing to look for fun house stuff.

    jbhat

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  37. Mr. CG wears the investment pants since he knows all about that sort of thing, but I wear the decor pants.

    Hub is very cool about me spending a bit here and there to fix up our home, and follows up with the obligatory "That looks great, hun". He's certainly enjoying the latest transformations, and listens to me go on an on about how "I saved so much!".

    But I confess, I'm a sneaker-into-the-house and we've-always-had-that girl too. But I think he's on to me.

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  38. Decorating? In our house? There's definitely NO way I'd leave that up to my hubby. We'd be eating at card tables and sitting on folding chairs (ahem - did that for the first five years of marriage!) Now that we're in a good job, with a stable income, I get to call the decorating shots. :)

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  39. Me: Do you like paint color A or B for the living room (knowing full well I am already committed to paint color A)
    Hubby: Um, I like paint color B
    Me: Oh. Well, do you HATE paint color A?
    Hubby: Um, I guess not.
    Me: Ok, paint color A it is!!

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  40. my name and my hubbies is missing!

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  41. I used to sneak stuff into the house, usually clothing, and use the "really, honey, I've had this forever...." But then I became a quilter and no longer have money for new clothes, although I have TONS of fabulous fabric so I guess I should just sew myself something.

    I wear the decorating pants (hey, I could sew myself a cool new pair of decorating pants from some of my quilting fabric...) and he doesn't rally care as long as "it looks good and we can afford it." We collaborate on major purchases like furnitue, although I have gotten my favorite items literally off the trash heap during city clean-up and then he has lovingly (?) rehabbed them for me.

    The only time I let go of the pants was in the kitchen, because, uh, that's his JOB. I picked out door style and wood type, but he did the redesigning. And it turned out GREAT! Because he knows me so well and I have seen all his designs in other people's kitchens.

    Huh. You'd think he would care more about the rest of the house. But, yay, he doesn't, and hardly ever notices when something has been changed.

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  42. The pant wearing in my house is pretty much exactly like you stated about yours! My hubs doesn't care too much about what I do in the decorating department, but if I dared make it too girly or anything like that he would not have it!

    I think I say "Oh I've had that forever" at least once a week.

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  43. LOL...I'm so in the same boat as you!! I always pull that stuff and there have been a few times that I've been caught, and kicking myself for it too...my husband is more "observant" than I'd like him to be sometimes...

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  44. LOL...I'm jealous of all the husbands that don't care. Jay notices everything and offers an opinion on everything. It's hell.

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  45. LOL The stories are hysterical!

    We're military, and have made 13 moves since getting married. As a result, our decor is always changing, and hubby can't keep up. I often sneak in purchases, only for him to notice 2 weeks later and inquire. "That? Don't you remember? I bought that YEARS ago when we lived in *insert state here*." He falls for it every time - he just thinks our closet leads to a home decor themed Narnia. :)

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  46. As always, you kill me with these posts!! HAHA!!

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  47. Undoubtedly, I wear the pants. I'm the one with the drill, who has hung the chandelier & mirrors (by myself), painted, refinished.... My boyfriend's clueless - and I say that in the nicest way :)

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  48. When it comes to home-decor, I prefer my husband naked. :)

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  49. I just found your blog through thisyounghouse and you crack me up! i had to share your "exchange" with my husband. I like to think I know how to decorate, but i don't think i have the knack. thankfully my husband is artistic and can put together a pretty nice room and not make it look all manly. I'm learning, slowly, what I like and what looks good to me. hope to continue reading your fun posts!

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  50. my boyfriend and I totally fight over the decorating pants in our relationship. However he's got a great eye so I've learned to back up and stop myself so I can listen to him. He picked out our couches and helped pick out the accents in the house and it actually worked. That being said there are a few things here and there that I might still feel are a bit too "college like" for our home - that's why there's a man cave in the spare bedroom ;)

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