Reflections


A few things that have crossed my mind in the past 17.5 months of motherhood.  
Honesty ahead, prepare yourselves (I don't do sap).
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{all pics via my Instagram}


  • What did I do with my time before Quinn came along?  I was never one to sit on my laurels but seriously......what did I do with all that free time?
  • Before Quinn, I used to think "I would never {insert parental act here}". I wish my current self would've traveled back in time to bitch-slap my pre-baby, judge-y self's face.
  • Parenting has taught me infinitely about patience & time management.  It has humbled me.
Helping/not helping
  • When I used to blog about how 'busy' or 'stressed out' I was pre-Quinn........well, those posts are simply embarrassing to read now.  So naive, so spoiled.
  • How I wish Quinn's grandparents live in Colorado.  I think this every time they visit & then have to say good-bye.  They love their granddaughter to pieces; the love brings tears to my eyes.  Selfishly: duh, it's hard, this parenting thing.  Especially with faraway grandparents.  Especially with a hardworking husband who commutes & occasionally travels for work (but he's ALWAYS hands-on when he's here).  There, I said it.  I know, I know-- I have only one kid...........don't punch me, moms of multiple kids.  It definitely makes me appreciate family even more!
  • It's insane how I love my daughter.  I love Mr. FC beyond measure, but my love for my girl takes my breath away at times.  Believe me, I was never a baby lover. Dog lover yes, baby lover ehhhh.
  • Quinn has a whole lot of nice, but she has a whole lot of spice, too.  She gets it from me.


  • It's silly (& I understand circumstances are different for everyone--hello colicky little ones) but I make time for a shower. Every day.  It is my zen moment.  Even if that means showering at 10 pm & having to jump out, drenched & clutching the baby monitor, because I have a feverish waking baby.
  • I cringe when I hear moms say "Well now that I'm a mommy, I don't _________________."  Not judging, just saying.
  • I'm fully aware that just because I think my kid is adorable, it doesn't mean you should think she's adorable.
  • I chuckled whilst perusing a friend's baby registry recently.  Especially when I saw the pacifiers (Quinn hated them), soothing swings (Quinn hated them), Aden & Anais swaddles (Quinn hated them), bottles (Quinn hated them), cute headbands (Quinn hated them), & sound machines (Quinn hated them).
  • It's hard for me to ask for help, especially when it comes to parenting.  Not just because I'm Type A (I can do it all myself!) but I feel terrible inconveniencing others.  Again, humbling.
  • Never brag about how well your kid sleeps.  It'll bite you in the ass.  Or the sleep-deprived mom you're bragging to will bite you in the ass.
  • I know I'm very lucky to have a kid who eats adventurously (sushi, veggies, fruit, fish, ethnic cuisine).  We shall see how long this lasts. *:-O surprise
Dinner at Auntie & Uncle's


  • After 14 months of nursing a baby who never took to bottles (i.e., needed my boobs), I still catch myself watching the clock when I'm out & about w/out her.  For so long, I was so used to having to beeline it home after a couple hours.
  • Mommy groups make me feel out of place (not just because there's usually a lack of wine #kidding #maybe).  Thank goodness for friends with babies, story time at the library, toddler ballet class, etc.

  • Every day is a new normal......that's never normal.
  • Instagram is really just a way for moms to brag about their kid(s). #guilty
  • I might be of the "one & done" camp.  No offense, Quinnie Girl, if & when you read this. :) happy
  • Quinn's the center of our universe but it's vital that she's not our whole universe. We're I'm still working on this balance.  Am I making any sense?
  • Still, she's my favorite ever.  I love her with my whole heart & soul.




*I've learned that sarcasm isn't a universal language, so please no emails about how I'm a terrible parent.  Of course I'm kidding about the boozed up baby mama part. #maybe  :) happy


HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY, FRIENDS!

70 comments:

  1. Newest follower here. This post is the best. I can't believe I ever thought I was stressed or tired before I had kids. I also can't believe I have played with legos, kissed stuffed animals, made two breakfasts for one kid, had to microwave my coffee three times and changed 5 diapers before 8:00 this morning :)

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    1. Welcome, thanks for stopping by!! I'm having a very similar morning to yours. Yay lukewarm coffee ;) LOL!

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    2. I forget what hot coffee tastes like.

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    3. This post is SPOT ON. I couldn't drink coffee when I was pumping/bottle feeding for the first year. My first big ass cup made me feel like I had just done meth. Not that I know what meth is like, but I'm guessing it wasn't far off. I don't think I'll ever get that 'high' again. Now i'm sitting here at work with my nugget crawling under my chair as I sip on cold coffee from 6:50 this morning....it's 10:55. I'm not sure I'll ever drink really hot coffee again, either.

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  2. You rock. Every child's (obviously) different, but I can SOOO relate to you on so much of what you've listed. (I'm uber guilty of bragging/stating out loud what a great sleeper our guy was, only to have him do a 180 THAT VERY NIGHT and sleep horribly for the following 7 months...and counting. It's like they can hear and understand what we say!) Oh, and the "center of our universe...not our whole universe" thing. That's a huge one. I'm with ya!

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  3. Eli is almost 18 months and I can relate to pretty much this entire post. Except the adventurous eating - what happened to my good little eater!? I'm thinking one & done might be the way to go, too. Not because he isn't amazing but when I think back to the days of no sleep/screaming/not being able to sit after giving birth for two weeks...ehhhhh. Not eager to go down that road again.

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  4. Love this post. I seriously wonder what I did with all my pre-baby free time at least 3x a day! Great pics of you girls and I don't think anyone could say that Q isn't one of the cutest babies to ever live :)

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  5. I love all your mom posts, I can definitely relate!

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  6. Love this. I relate to SO much of it. The pre-baby free time (what did I dooooo?!), wanting to throat punch the pre-baby me, how my patience and humbleness have increased exponentially. Parenting is so life changing. It's hard, but I'm a better person for it.

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  7. LOVE seeing little babies/toddlers eating sushi! My Janella tried to eat sushi the other day with chopsticks, so hilarious to see. Your Quinn is beautiful and it sounds like she has a great personality.

    And I do laugh internally at some ppl's baby registers too, but I remind myself that every baby AND PARENT is different. For instance, pacifiers saved my sanity and we definitely needed the three bottles we had. I'm sure Quinn liked some stuff that Janella hated!

    Toddler ballet class... awesome, didn't even know that this was a thing!

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    1. Janella's quite the adventurous eater herself, what a doll!!! And so true, every baby's different as well as every parent. That's going to be my new mantra =]

      Thanks SO much for your kind words, friend! Hope all's well in your world!

      xoxo

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  8. YEP. I can SO relate, dude. Like so much I could leave the most ridiculously long comment right now. I guess that's why it's so important to find some good mom friends to sit down (glass of wine in hand) and vent... or relate... or gush. All those lovely mom emotions.

    For reals, you don't know how many times I've said that to my husband, what did we doooo before kids? haha.

    I'm cheersing my cold coffee to you while Alice bangs on the keyboard!
    Cheers to best and hardest job ever.

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  9. lol! So understand what your talking about!! After I had my first, I never knew love like that before could exist!! Super grateful for my parents putting up with me, lol. I was certain after having my 1st, I would never be able to love another as much, wrong then we had # 2 lol - and my heart grew even bigger!!

    Enjoy this mommy-hood thing :)

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  10. absolutely perfect post! spot on in every point!!! love loe love your blog and your honesty . . . although you make such cute babies are you SURE your a one & done??? :) he he he

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  11. Yes, yes, YES! Especially to #1, 2, and mamabragging via instagram. Being a mom is so wonderful and so challenging!

    Also, this post makes me wonder why more mama groups don't involve wine. Certainly we could all use a glass (or three).

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  12. It IS hard. You're doing great, though. Just love her to pieces. Here's my aha: Not everyone in the world will adore my kiddos....that's MY job, so they need to know that I'm good at it.

    Also: I love that you are fluent in sarcasm.

    jbhat

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  13. Love this. I just made a similar post. Being a parent is hard work, mama! We also struggle with the "not making her our whole universe".. That's tough because they are, yet you still want to have a great dating marriage too!

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  14. A-to the-men! I'm sitting here reading this and nodding to pretty much everything you've wrote here! Being a stayhome momma with 15 month old twins definitely creates some humbling/stressful/I need a drink moments!

    I applaud all the Mommas who realize its not all sunshine an rainbows out there!

    Love this post. Thanks!!

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  15. Loved this post! I could relate to most of it. Although, knowing from other moms to not brag if your child slept through the night, I have to say that OTHER people jinxed us. Zoe was sleeping through the night at about 10 weeks old and whenever people asked that question (unprompted from us) we always told the truth. So after a week of that she started waking up twice a night. Grrr. We should've just lied about it, lol. And yes, Instagram is just a way to brag about our babies #guilty ;-)

    Nemixtli

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  16. I've heard many times that even if I dont like children, I would love my own children. But I don't think I can hear that too many times. It's good to see yet another example of this instinctual love, as I really don't like most children but am considering having my own. I do loooove my dogs though. :) I cried when you posted about Hiro's passing.

    Let us know how you manage not to let your girl be your whole universe. I've been telling my husband I don't want that to be the case, else I don't want children... I wonder if I will want to bitch slap myself one day as well...

    Best wishes with motherhood!

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    1. I can add my voice to not being interested in children until I had my own! Even when I was pregnant with my first, I still didn't think other babies were that exciting or cute, it actually made me a little nervous about how I would feel when she got here. But the second she was born I was totally in love with her, and wondered how I ever thought babies weren't fabulous.

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    2. Good to know, Tara. Good to know. :)

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  17. I am totally one-and-done as well! Love you girl!

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  18. "Whole lotta nice, with some spice"....love it! She is stinking ADORABLE, I love following along :)

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  19. Beautifully stated as always. Motherhood while rewarding is so so so hard. It's something you can't be prepared for and once you're in the thick of it....well, you're in the thick of it. ;)

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  20. Ditto. On all of it. Seriously, get out of my head, you're being creepy! If only we lived closer,our girls could play together and I would totally serve wine at playgroup :)

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    1. Speaking of creepy......... ::raspy breathing:: So, what are you wearing.......

      For real, how come we don't live near each other?! Those playdates would be epic. There would be a wine shortage but ehhh, you know. #hasanyoneseenthekids

      xoxo

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  21. Hello! My name is Brooke and I'm new to your blog, but love it! I can relate to sooooo much of this post! Especially the "one and done" part. My son is 9 months old and I haven't screwed him up too much yet (at least not that I'm aware of :-) and I feel like I should just leave well enough alone and quit while I'm ahead. :) Thanks for being so open and honest. It's refreshing!

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  22. Preach it sister! I feel you on the no in-state grandparents (and the wine-less playdates!). BTW- could Quinn look anymore precious in that dance uniform?! That is why we aren't in the one and done category, I need a girl! :)

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  23. Yes! You always say it best, girl. That's why I love you and you are my fave. I was shaking my head in agreement, laughing, and crying throughout this entire post. Motherhood is NO JOKE, right? It makes me question my sanity daily but it's part of my life journey--as corny as that sounds, for sure. Thanks for always stating it like it is and being just the most genuine and sweet gal in blogland. I just love you!

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  24. Not sure you remember me, but oh how I have missed your posts. I stopped blogging/reading other blogs once I got pregnant with my second and stopped having time to breathe. I, too, laugh when I remember saying how "stressed" or "busy" I was before kids. Jesus, what in the world did I do then? Anyway, I have missed your sarcasm over the past three+ years and can definitely relate to a lot of this. :)

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  25. you know, same for me I am a "one and done" mom too! :-) I was able to relate to almost everything you wrote with my 23 month old son :-) & I think your baby girl is adorable ;-)

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  26. Are those ballet slippers on your feet too??? How fun! You have such a way with words. I share your sentiments... especially the wine ;)

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  27. um, i almost died from the picture with the skateboard. and the kissing... and the...

    (ALSO, there's so much i understand here. big wet kisses. BIG.)

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  28. um I beg to differ -sarcasm IS a universal language - for smart people ;) i never fit in any mommy groups either - whatever - i'm a weirdo I guess. I think we may be sisters or some how related because I can SO relate to everything you wrote and my girl is so spicy at times that I think if I had her first there may have only been one - but seriously you make the most beautiful babies that it would be a crime for you to not have at least one more - for realz!

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    1. If only that sarcasm font existed, our lives would be SO much easier.

      You have no idea how stoked I am to hear that I'm not the only one who's leery of mommy groups! I was starting to think I was the weirdo. We should form our own mommy group: Weirdos With Wine......or would it just be me?! ;) Also, do you think us having spicy daughters is payback for how we were? HA! #wildchild #justmeagain ?

      Aw thanks so much, gal, you're the best!!

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  29. Love love love this post....and if someone doesn't get the sarcasm...or understand why you have to pretend you're kidding...then they can move on. They wouldn't be in our sarcasm group in real life anyway.

    totally agree with all of this...and just know that it does get easier, you do get more free time back, and you will eventually feel like FC, not just Q's mommy.

    and there's a reason my kids are almost 5 yrs apart. I was one and done, but God laughed at my theory.

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  30. This post is my favorite. It's so true that Instagram solely exists to brag about my cute kid. Although I have not come to grasp with the idea that everyone doesn't care about Henry's every move like I do. And I don't know that I ever will.

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    1. I totally care about Henry's every move. Probably because we have so many likes & dislikes (being alone, hats, the list goes on).

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  31. love this post!! I dont have kids right now, and I'm totally in the liking dogs better phase (and I dont even have one of those) but i read all of these and laugh to myself that this will totally be me when (and if) I do have kids of my own. I know I'll want to bitchslap myself for all the stupid things I'm saying about my friends with kids now.
    I'm totally tagging this to read later!

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  32. Sweetest most truthful post ever!!! I'm a new follower and love your blog!

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  33. Oh man! So true....all of it! We have a 19 mo. old little girl, and I feel the exact same way!! Sometimes we toy with the idea of " what if we only had ONE kid!?!" Would that be crazy or what?! haha. Amara just seems like enough sometimes, and I really do cherish my showers as well ( they are always between 10-12 pm). Quinn is a doll. Enjoyed reading this post!!

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    1. LOL, glad I'm not alone here! Amara is such an amazing name, love it. Thanks so much for your kind words, gal!!!

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  34. Just catching up on this post and of course, I'm multi-tasking and trying to write my Mother's Day post so now you have me blubbering all over my keyboard. Yes, yes, and yes to each one of your points. I feel what you feel still even though Chloe's a little older than Quinn. There is so much to this motherhood thing that I didn't even realize was part of the job description. You're doing a beautiful job at it. I wish you lived closer. Then we could avoid mommy groups together.

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  35. haha love it! Not a mom yet but have a feeling I will relate! and whenever I meet someone and come to the realization that they don't understand sarcasm, I feel inclined to pat them on the arm with a sad face and back away slowly because wow they are really missing out! :)

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  36. Just when I think I can't love the friend-I-have never-met any more, you go and post things like this. :) I loved reading every word of it! I think you're amazing, gorgeous, and talented! (With the perfect hair, great bod, adorable kid, gorgeous house, fabulous style, blah, blah, blah...seriously Freckles, tone it down a couple of notches would you? :)) I wish we lived close so we could be our own mommy group!

    You're perfect everything! We've never met, but whether it's on Instagram, Pinterest, emails, or the blog, thank you for always making my day a little better than it was before! I hope I am blessed to meet you in person one day!

    Okay, enough with the sap before you get a big head! Haha, have a wonderful day, my friend! Love you!

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    1. Girl, all those things I can wholeheartedly say right back atcha!! I heart you. (you've got mail)

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  37. LOVE this. Found you through my girl, Cassie. Can relate to pretty much all of it. It is amazing to look back and think, "What the heck did I do with my time." I could have solved some major world crisis or found a cure for something had I known how much time I was wasting ;)

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    1. LOL, totally agree! So much potential wasted, so much free time I had back then ;) Thanks SO much for dropping by & taking the time to comment; you're the best. I found you last year thru Cassie, too!! Adore your blog & your beautiful family! (Cass should start charging us for referral fees or whatever, ha. Love that girl.)

      Thanks again for popping in!

      xoxo

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  38. I love this post! My daughter is 22 months, and we're one and done - its interesting to see someone else say that, everyone acts like we're so insane for that decision, but I love it and I know I won't have any regrets. Also? Its not just you, Quinn is super adorable :)

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  39. So true!!love the post!can so relate to it!!:)

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  40. Quinn's the center of our universe but it's vital that she's not our whole universe. We're I'm still working on this balance. Am I making any sense?


    WELL SAID. I have a 3.5 year old and 15 month old- and am now just realizing that balance is key.

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  41. Oh! I love love love love LOVE this. I can relate to every single thing on this list. You're such a great mama and Quinn is so blessed and lucky to have you. Lucky ladies! xoxo

    PS - The ballet photo melts me. I've always said I want all boys and when and if we have #2 I still want a boy, but there's a tiny fraction of me that craves a girl just for the ballet aspects.

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  42. I agree with Carmel. Mommy groups are only good with wine...and i never fit into one easily. It was like an out of body experience listening to undercuurrents of competitive parenting and subtle digs at others' less than perfect ways. That said, I loved raising my kids and it was worth every cup of lukewarm coffee and gummy cheerios in my bathrobe pocket. Rock on and be Quinn's awesome mommy and don't let the Alpha Moms discourage you.

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  43. Count me in on the Weirdos with Wine. I am way to sarcastic for some mommies around here. Sarcasticmommiesunite!

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  44. Love the honesty. It is wonderful to see someone being themselves. no excuses!

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  45. Girl, one baby or more than one, it's still HARD. You're a great mommy and Q is so lucky to have you as her mom.

    The ballet ensemble is killing me. Give her a big squeeze from me!

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    1. Thanks, friend. I love you to pieces. Giving Q a big squeeze from Auntie Suzie!!

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  46. I'm not sure how I missed this post! I love it!! I might even have a girl crush on you now :-) haha you and your adorable little girl. I think she and Luca could be great friends. THey could hang in your super cool basement. And you and I could drink wine. #momsoftheyear

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    1. Now THAT'S a playdate I would never miss!! Quinn & Luca would have a total blast. And being the adventurous eaters that they are, we can just throw some food at them (I'm thinking exotic sushi rolls) & keep drinking our wine.

      #girlcrushrightbackatcha

      xoxo

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  47. Im with you on not being a mommy blog but I love to hear your thoughts.

    Im so terrible with mom groups. I love talking baby but its not enough for me to forge a friendship and I simply can't fake it.

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    1. ME TOO!! I've decided, in the short months I've been a mom, that motherhood is like a sorority. It can build you up and/or break you down. Like our hormones aren't making us crazy enough. ;)

      Thanks for dropping by, gal!!

      xoxo

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  48. Best.Post.Ever. I swear I have had these exact same thoughts about motherhood!

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  49. Best.Post.Ever. I swear I've had these exact same thoughts about motherhood!

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  50. I really do think we share the same brain, I feel exactly this way, from the 'don't like kids except my own' to the 'possibly one and done' statement, I'm so there. It is so hard, and I don't know what I did with myself before Ashford came. Well yes I do, I watched way more TV, worked on the house all the time, and blogged a shitload more. Eh, if people want a daily read they can hit up YHL and leave me alone. Thankfully my parents live in town so I have more help than you, that is so rough. I also find myself watching the clock when I'm out, even though we're not nursing anymore and I'm also not pumping any longer. I don't even know what to do with the freedom at night since I stopped that! Oh wait, I watch TV. Hm, I see a disturbing pattern here....

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    1. So so so very true!! We need a playdate STAT. Quinn & Ashford would have endless fun & we'd get boozey. Actually, let's leave the kids w/ their daddys. You, me, & my valued liquor customer card.....it'll be awesome. I get discounts. ;)

      Love you to pieces!!

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  51. I love your honesty.

    Toddler Ballet Class? Cutest f-ing thing EVER.

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  52. You had me at #boozedupbabymamaYES. We could be friends, seriously. East coast baby mama of three boys under six. Booze. It's not a crutch, it's survival. Anyway (no I am not an alcohol, I just practice sometimes) it stinks when we find these gems of moms/women that we feel we relate to and BOOM, they live in CO.

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  53. OMG.....I can so relate to this post. Mom, Wife, Fashion blogger, store owner, corporate American....yeah, just a few things that keeps me busy. I can sooooooo relate to you. I had no clue how precious time was prior to having my son. Boy I had not a single clue. It's so good to read authentic, honest and related blogs in this day and age.

    Natasha
    www.fashionablyfab.com

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