Beyond yoga pants

I'm the furthest thing from a fashionista, & lately I've fallen into even more of a fashion rut.  I can't really claim the "new mom" excuse anymore (though I think "mom to a wild toddler" can be almost as exhausting ha!).  Being a SAHM who also works from home part-time, I've just gotten lazy & predictable when it comes to outfits (always reaching for my faithful leggings/yoga pants-that-have-never-been-to-yoga & slouchy sweatshirt).  The hubby is a great hands-on dad but works long hours on top of a commute so most days I wake up with Quinn, go-go-go about our day, drink cold coffee that's been microwaved 5x, I put the Quinnster to bed, work a bit, then fall into bed myself.  At which point I realize Oh mah gawd, I never changed out of my pjs.

(Note: I do throw on decent non-pj pants when we leave the house.  Maaaybe a bra.)

Some of the best parts of my day center around being a parent, but like most moms, I take care of myself last.  I'm not one of those moms who leaves the house looking as polished as a diamond.  If you are, will you come help me?  This year I want to put more effort into my appearance.  Sure it's a superficial resolution but those are the only resolutions I make ;-)  Besides, me wearing pants that aren't leggings for once? I think we all win.

To be honest, when I make efforts to pull myself together, I feel good.  More confident.  Happier.  Hubby couldn't care less what I wear; he insists I just be kind to myself.  It's probably just one of those baffling things that contributes to us lady folks' mystique (like good listening skills).

Classic & comfort are what I crave.
Some outfits of interest:

(I can't find the original source for this one.)
(via an old Talbots catalog)
(More on my Pinterest.)


My parents never instilled much confidence in me throughout my years at home, whether it was academics or appearance.  They were the ultimate tiger parents, which had the opposite effect on me.  Instead of pushing myself to be the best, I wallowed in insecurities.  So above all, there is a precocious little girl in our home to whom I want to show that confidence, tempered by kindness to yourself & others, can be a beautiful thing.  I want to show her that it's OK to want to wear pretty things so long as we understand that they're only accessories to our kind hearts & sharp minds.

I know right: deep thoughts, man.  Stick to what you know, FC.
Off to fan my fashion flame!

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  1. Eeee!!! What a fun resolution!!! It will be fun to watch your fashion evolve! :)
    BTW: my mom and I are both IN LOVE with the leggings you suggested. Thank you!! :)

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    1. Thanks for your support, friend!! Uh oh, the pressure's on..... ;-)

      Yay, so glad you gals love the leggings!! It was my pleasure.

      xoxo

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  2. I think what you know and what you are showing Quinn is that it is wonderful to celebrate all aspects of being a woman. I totally could see you rocking all of those outfits. I rock non-yoga yoga pants way too often so I'm off to raid your Pinterest boards ;)

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    1. Once again, you've so eloquently said what took me a gazillion mediocre words to get out!!!
      Also? I heart you.
      xoxo

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  3. I had to giggle at your post, because I can so relate. I quit my job last year after working in the corporate world for 20 years (and dressing business casual on a daily basis). Since quitting, I live in workout pants and comfy clothes, and often find myself showering at the END of the day. What's happening to me?? Is it sad that one of my resolutions is to get dressed every day? I just find it kind of silly some days - I work out, get sweaty, come home, work on DIY projects (get sweaty), and/or walk the dog, so it seems kind of like a waste, you know?

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    1. LOL, I feel you on every word, sister! There are days when I'm like is it even worth the shower....that's like 10 minutes I could be doing something else. All these DIYers who look impeccable make me question whether they're really doing their own DIYing haha!! ;-)

      Thanks for the comment & the laugh, gal!
      xoxo

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  4. It's hard sometimes as a sahm to always look together and it's easy to fall into a rut, it happens to all of us! What I do is buy cute shirts that I can easily pair with jeans, also I love maxi dresses. It's easy to dress them up or down depending in what you're doing. Some easy makeup eyeliner, powder, blush, mascara and lipgloss is also easy to slop on and you feel so much better about yourself! Just look for easy pieces and accessorize them :)

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    1. Thanks gal, great advice! Be my stylist & I'll pay you in cabernet ;-) I think my thing is that I'm not a huge fan of jeans & we're so active that wearing accessories/makeup annoys me. Finding the time to shop is difficult right now but hey that's what online shopping with wine is for, right?! Need to just suck it up & do it!!

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  5. I always vow to dress better after spending a night watching beautiful clothes, like on the GG and Downton. And then here I am today in my black yoga pants with paint on them and a clean t-shirt. I'm very proud of the clean t-shirt. :)

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    1. LOL! I'm also VERY proud of your clean shirt.
      I'm the same way when I watch Scandal, drooling over Olivia Pope's wardrobe. Then I look down at myself & think hey, I'm holding a giant glass of red wine too, we TOTALLY have the same style.

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  6. Have you ever tried Style Me Perfect? I used to be a stylist for them, and they are such a great company that totally caters to women like us, as well as your 9-5 business women. Although, I am passionate about fashion and easy style, I left to pursue my greater love, and launched my own blog, loveandlion.com, which is a celebration blog for moms and littles ( would love if you checked us out!) Anyway.... I totally get where you are at, and I LOVE that its a resolution! It is literally a daily mountain for me to CHOOSE to put some time into myself. I am always happy that I did later. If not just for you or your friends.... even my husband will come home and notice my outfit ( which is a miracle), and it makes it totally worth it. Sorry for the long comment.

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  7. I think the easiest way to be comfortable and look chic is to wear a great pair of jeans and high quality flats. Or if you live in some arctic region of the country that gets a ton of snow, then replace the ballet flat with a pair of flat booties. Throw on a classic tee/sweater and adorn with a statement necklace. DONE!

    You've got this! Let Quinn pick out your jewelry and you'll both have fun with it.

    http://jax-and-jewels.blogspot.com

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    1. Great tips, thanks gal! I guess my problem isn't so much the method of putting polished outfit together....it's more that since I'm with a toddler all day, things like wearing pretty clothes & accessories fall by the wayside. Lack of time, energy, plus having food thrown at me all day not to mention little hands tugging on earrings/jewelry etc, ouch--well, no wonder I so readily reach for my yoga pants ha!
      But yes, I just need to DO it!!
      xoxo

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  8. I can 100% relate to this! I finally lost all the baby weight and started wearing pants with a zipper again - but only because it helps me monitor my weight gain! :) When I was wearing "comfy pants" everyday, I couldn't tell that I was slowly creeping back up to my pregnant weight! When I've got to actually button my pants, the gut is harder to ignore. :) I'm like a goldfish, I expand to fit my environment. If I'm wearing stretchy pants, I'll fill them to capacity. :-)

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    1. Congrats on your new figure, mama!!! "I'm like a goldfish, I expand to fit my environment." -- that's the funniest thing I've heard in a while lol. I'm going to need to start investing in pants with zippers/buttons oy ;-)
      xoxo

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  9. You always look so fashionable, but I know that the Internets only show me the pretty things. Trust me. I'm bra-less most of the time. And I only have four teeth.

    Thank God for Photoshop and Instagram filters.

    Back to you. I'm excited to follow this journey. I'm sort of on the opposite end of the spectrum. I have no casual clothes after years of working in a business environment. So I'm the mom in the pants suit at Music and Movement.

    Kidding. Sort of.

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    1. "And I only have four teeth." I haven't laughed this hard in a while, hahaha!! Thanks friend. If only IG's Valencia filter could filter me an ensemble with no food stains. And maybe LoFi could filter me a bra.

      I always imagine the moms in pants suits at toddler activities to have impressive occupations. I want to be all "How do structured clothes feel b/c I can't remember." I also try to not stroke their blazers.

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  10. We have the exact same 2014 resolution! I'm sort of a SAHM, but for someone else's children while I homeschool my own teens and complete my Accounting degree. My pitfall is JEANS! I wear them every single day. Spring and Summer, with a tee; Fall and Winter with a hoodie. In just a few weeks, I start an internship where I'll have to wear business dress, not just business casual. I'm shaking in my boots (or tennies anyway)! Looking forward to seeing how you progress. My first step is THROWING OUT all my go-tos!

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    1. I wish I could get on the jeans train! It'd be an improvement for me ;-) Your first step's a great one! Talk about a full plate, I hope you rock your internship!! And I know you're going to rock that business wear! xoxo

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  11. First of all, with hair like yours you don't need nice clothes to look chic! Second, I'm a firm believer that leggings can look put together. At least that's what I'm telling myself with my 'all leggings all the time' wardrobe of late ;) I'm a huge fan of scarves for making a toddler friendly accessory and large stud earrings.

    Regardless of what you wear I love the message you're putting out here, especially of setting an example to Quinn to wear whatever and feel great. Hope you find that style that is comfy and makes you feel great. You are a hot mama!!

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    1. Aw thanks, friend! Thank goodness for IG filters that make my 4th day greasy hair look good ;-) Now if only IG could filter me an ensemble. Or a bra.

      In all seriousness, thanks a million for your kind, encouraging words!! I hope our girls will love themselves for who they are...this mean girls shite out there scares me!! I want to send Quinn to preschool in a bubble so she can't hear cruel insults. Maybe add an infinity scarf or statement necklace for interest ;-)

      xoxo

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  12. Girl, I've always thought you were chic and awesome. Glad you turned out the way you did, because you rock my socks. Love ya, FC. xoxo

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    1. Aw thanks for that, my dear. And coming from one of the sincerest, chicest gals I know--it means a lot.

      It's a miracle I turned out decent! ;-) Wine....it's cheaper than therapy.

      xoxo

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  13. "I want to show her that it's OK to want to wear pretty things so long as we understand that they're only accessories to our kind hearts & sharp minds." I don't know if I've ever loved anything more than I love this. Rock it girl!

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    1. Thanks girl! Hey, who knew that college semester of philosophy would pay off for me?! #deepthoughts

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  14. Loved this post! You're little cutie is so lucky to have you as a mother!

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    1. Thank you, friend! Same with your little cutie!
      xoxo

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  15. I love that hubs just wants you to be good to yourself...he's a wise one. And a keeper. You're lucky in that you have the most adorable figure, so even yoga pants look amaze on you. I've found just adding a bright scarf and fun pair of earrings can jazz the whole thing to a new level. And ps...it's all we can do to make it through the first 18 months...it's not until they become little people instead of slugs that we are able to rediscover ourselves. xoxoxox

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    1. If only you & your superstar squad sisters would stop looking so posh & pulled together, the rest of us would have less of a complex!! So I blame you for all this ;-) Love you, mean it.

      xoxo

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  16. I'm sure you rock those yoga pants amazingly! But I can so relate to want to look more pulled together etc. I've been a in serious work rut during m-f...I used to be a high heels gal now in flats all day everyday! lol One of my personal goals is to allow myself a little bit of extra time to actually out some makeup on, wear heels! & rock it during my m-f and of course look amazing on weekends while pushing the target cart with Avery in it! :)

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    1. Girl, YES!! To all of this, I'm the same way. I knew we had soul sisters potential ;-) I have no doubt you can rock it....once you do, can you send some of those vibes my way?! Thanks so much for the encouraging words, my friend!!
      xoxo

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  17. I love all of these outfit! I bet you can rock them all. Keep us updated! I could use the inspiration:)

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    1. Thanks for the encouragement, gal!!
      xoxo

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  18. Agree with Carmel. I love this post. Q is beyond fortunate. You are so in tune with all that really matters. I love that about you. And you could wear a garbage bag with a statement necklace and look like a million bucks. Go easy on yourself and know that your inner hottie is always there. Love you, girl.

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    1. Thanks a million, C! Coming from an amazing, chic gal/mama such as yourself, this is the highest compliment!! Hope our girls stay grounded--it scares me the mean girls mentality out there. I'm just going to put Q in a bubble & send her off to preschool....accessorized with a JCrew bubble necklace of course.

      Love you back!!

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  19. Have I told you lately that I love you? (Please sing that in a Rod Stewart voice.) You are such a perfect mother! Q is beyond blessed to have you as her role model. You make yoga pants and t-shirts look like the belong on the runway! Clothes are kind of my hobby so we should text each other fabulous ootd pictures, even though you, Mrs. Hottie with a Body, could wear a burlap sack and look super gorgeous! Ugh, don't talk to me, I hate you. Haha, just kidding. I think you are amazing and I honestly love clothes/fashion/wine, so let's chat anytime! :) And just to drive the point home - Quinn is such a blessed little girl to have to you to call Mummy. You're always going to be the best mother for her. Have a wonderful day!

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  20. You are speaking my language as a new mom with a tiger mom childhood herself. Coming from NYC and having worked in high fashion, you wouldn't believe it if I told you from my day to day now. I've become one of those stereotypical "lululemon moms," oy. Sometimes I feel like my take away from my work and childhood was to eschew pressure to be unrealistic, overly hyper and superficial. But I think I've taken that too far in the other direction. Loved this post as I'm trying to rediscover dressing and caring for myself, not for the sake of the opinion of others so I can teach my little girl the same.

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    1. YES! Your whole comment truly resonates with me & it's nice to know that I'm not so isolated in my thoughts/feelings whist bumbling my way thru this parenting thing ;-)

      xoxo

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  21. Love your picks! I would wear all of those and have a lot of those pinned too :) xo Kristin

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    1. You'd rock all of those outfits & probably already do, haute mama!! Teach me your ways ;-)
      xoxo

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  22. Carolyn (Cassie's aunt)Fri Jan 17, 10:37:00 AM

    Your comment re kind hearts and sharp minds just floored me. You are a smart, smart girl. Sometimes our upbringing can serve as a lesson in what we DON'T repeat with our own kids - ensuring so much more happiness than using our past as a crutch, an excuse. The amazing Quinn is very blessed to be your daughter.

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    1. "ensuring so much more happiness than using our past as a crutch, an excuse"....now I'm the one who's floored. Your words lift me up more than I can adequately express. Thank you for the encouragement, my friend!!
      xoxo

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  23. Ummm yeah so it's 3:00 in the afternoon and I'm still in my ROBE as I write this comment! Girl being a sahm on MOST days here's what I have to say to the effort it takes to get pulled together: #aintnobodygottimeforthat. But I totally understand what you mean. There are so many days I look at myself and feel like I dont recognize who's looking back. I love all the inspiration pics and they are sooooo my style. Quinn is one lucky little girl to have such an awesome momma. Here's to prettier days and no guilt about the days we don't get out of our pjs!

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    1. Girl, I feel you on every single word!! There's days when I avoid the mirror--I don't need the visual! ;-) Guilt is such an unfortunate part of being a mom, too...."no guilt about the days we don't get out of our pjs".....word to that!!! Thanks so much for the encouraging sentiments, my friend!

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  24. Oh girl, you have STYLE. You could make a pjs look uber chic.

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    1. And don't forget 4th day hair ;-) Thank you, love!!!! xoxo

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  25. Love this so very much! I made a point to get myself dressed and do my hair and makeup yesterday, even though I was only working from home. My kids came home and asked me, "did you get your hair done? What did you have going on today? Are we going somewhere tonight?" They have gotten used to seeing me in cozy clothes and a messy bun. Sort of a reality check. And bottom line, I was more productive and felt better yesterday than I had in a long time. Great post darling!

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    1. I get this reaction from Quinn & the hubs when I wash my hair! Apparently rocking the 4th day hair is not considered an accomplishment by them ;-) I totally agree, pulling myself together in the morning sets the tone for the rest of the day for me. Dare I say, I swear I'm even more productive.

      Thanks for dropping by, gal!!

      xoxo

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  26. I'm right there with you, most days I live in yoga pants but I do feel better when I shower (and actually wash my hair) and get dressed for the day. It sort of sets the tone for the whole day for me.

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    1. I always think you're effortlessly chic. You're so right though! Doing those things totally sets the tone for the whole day. Dare I say I'm even more productive?!
      xoxo

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  27. love your deep thoughts. i was also raised by a total tiger mama. your words rang true with me and i know you will raise up Q to appreciate things of beauty but have a confidence that isn't affected by 'stuff.' xox

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    1. Thank you, gal! That is the highest compliment, especially from an inspiring mama such as yourself!
      xoxo

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  28. The sentiment behind wanting to look nice is absolutely spot on. I also think that looking nice is showing respect to people around you, so it's not entirely selfish:) On a practical note-- when I am at home with my toddler I can't wear jeans, jewelry and make up either. But I do make sure to wear nice leggins and tees (nothing baggy or ill-fitting!). When I need to go out to run errands, I quickly change into my go-to outfit that usually includes a pair of "go with everything" earrings and a scarf. Oh yes, a tiny bit of make up goes a looong way. Eye concealer especially. That is my solution to looking put together and being comfortable at the same time.
    The inspiration pictures you collected look pretty, but I can't imagine myself wearing them to actually run errands. Maybe a lunch with a friend? My go-to "running errands" outfit would be jeans/slacks/capri pants plus a simple but well-fitted shirt (a tee or a button-down), a sweater in winter. Nice quality flats that go with everything (sense a theme here?:). Being dressed like that is 100% essential to my positive mood throughout the day. Every morning I can't wait to change out of my PJs or I can guarantee the day will drag out, and I can't afford that!

    I think I just wrote a post here:) This IS a great topic!:)

    -Mila@milasmilieu.com

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    1. Those are great tips, thank you! I'm a fan of quality leggings that fit well, too & do believe one can dress them up. I'm a minimalist when it comes to makeup but when it does happen it's worth the effort for sure! Like you said, pulling oneself together sets the tone for the whole day. Love that thought.

      And I agree, these outfits aren't exactly fit for flitting about errands ;-) They're more for inspiration to encourage me to step outside of my predictable comfort zone outfits every once in a while. Crossing fingers.

      Thanks so much for taking the time to comment, I appreciate that!! :-)

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